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Stages of Relationship Change in Mixed Orientation Couples

Stages of Relationship Change in Mixed Orientation Couples

The discovery of the same-sex attraction of one’s spouse can be trying for both members of the marriage (Yarhouse, 2010).  This may cause many questions and conflicts to arise for the couple, and navigating this experience within the marriage may be a difficult process.  Each couple will navigate this experience in their own way, but there are four broad stages of relationship change that...

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The PARE model

The PARE model

The PARE model is a useful tool for clinicians who work with couples in mixed orientation marriages (one in which one of the spouses experiences same-sex attraction).  After the disclosure of same-sex attraction, both spouses go through a variety of emotions and a time of learning to face their new understanding of reality.  In the midst of this, many couples choose to divorce.  However, for...

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Sexual Identity: Special Considerations for Youth

Sexual Identity: Special Considerations for Youth

Something ISSI research has found is that milestone events for individuals with same sex attraction are likely to occur starting with an awareness of same sex attraction anywhere in the age range of 8-14, with behavior, labeling, disclosure, and same-sex relationship following after throughout the teenage and early adult years. We know that the adolescent years are crucial for identity...

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“Parts” Language and Parts of Yourself

“Parts” Language and Parts of Yourself

Everyone seems to describe his or her family as kind of crazy. There’s the uncle no one’s seen in years.  A “black sheep” cousin.  Two aunts who don’t see eye to eye.  An overprotective parent.  A wayward sibling.  Sometimes, it feels like we carry those people, or aspects of them, inside of ourselves.  How we describe those aspects of ourselves is known as “parts” language...

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