markyarhouse

The PARE model

The PARE model

The PARE model is a useful tool for clinicians who work with couples in mixed orientation marriages (one in which one of the spouses experiences same-sex attraction).  After the disclosure of same-sex attraction, both spouses go through a variety of emotions and a time of learning to face their new understanding of reality.  In the midst of this, many couples choose to divorce.  However, for...

Read More

Sexual Identity: Special Considerations for Youth

Sexual Identity: Special Considerations for Youth

Something ISSI research has found is that milestone events for individuals with same sex attraction are likely to occur starting with an awareness of same sex attraction anywhere in the age range of 8-14, with behavior, labeling, disclosure, and same-sex relationship following after throughout the teenage and early adult years. We know that the adolescent years are crucial for identity...

Read More

Read More

“Parts” Language and Parts of Yourself

“Parts” Language and Parts of Yourself

Everyone seems to describe his or her family as kind of crazy. There’s the uncle no one’s seen in years.  A “black sheep” cousin.  Two aunts who don’t see eye to eye.  An overprotective parent.  A wayward sibling.  Sometimes, it feels like we carry those people, or aspects of them, inside of ourselves.  How we describe those aspects of ourselves is known as “parts” language...

Read More

Nature Versus Nurture

Nature Versus Nurture

One of the oldest questions in psychology undoubtedly is the nature versus nurture debate. Plato reasoned that qualities are innate; occurring naturally regardless of the environment they are in. Other philosophers such as John Locke argued that the mind is a blank slate, impacted by experiences. Whether intelligence or human sexuality, humans are curious to understand what factors influence an...

Read More